I want to do with you what spring does with the cherry trees.
There is something built into the heart of a woman that yearns to be pursued. She desires to be sought after. To feel like she is worth the trouble/pleasure of a man’s time and affection. That she is interesting enough, and captivating enough, to go the extra mile for.
It’s exhilarating, being pursued. And, if you aren’t careful, it can become addicting. Jumping from guy to guy, searching for someone who will finally pull out all the stops and pursue you the way you deserve! Maybe this time you won’t be let down … Maybe …
Can I make a suggestion from someone who has been there?
It starts to matter less and less who is pursuing you when you are passionately pursing the God who crafted your beautiful feminine heart.
Think about it. You were made in the glorious image of The One Living God. You reflect parts of His heart in a way no one else ever could.
So, guess what? God desires to be pursued by you. He doesn’t need you to do it. He is enough in Himself already. But He still wants you to.
Think about it. The God of Everything is complete in Himself. And yet, He still desires to be in an intimate relationship with you. He began pursing you long ago…
1 John 4:19 says, “We love because He first loved us.” He knows the desires of your heart better than you do. He loves you better than any person ever could. He created you to have a longing for Him. He loved you and was pursing your heart even while He was knitting you together in the womb.
The question is: are you going to answer His perusal with one of your own? He wants to fulfill you. Totally. Whether there is a man in the picture or not. And you absolutely cannot find contentment anywhere else, or in anyone else, until you find your sole fulfillment in HIM.
Ladies (and gentlemen) if you are thinking a relationship, or having every guy (or girl) knocking down your door is going to bring you fulfillment, you need to refocus. Only Jesus can fulfill every need and desire your heart whispers and years after.
It is always HIM before THEM.
Jeremiah 29:13 - You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all of your heart.
Don’t hold back any little bit. Pursue Him with ALL of your heart. The dreams and romance God has dreamed for you are far bigger than your own. Seek HIM first.
Now, does the bible contain a wealth of wisdom for practical, daily living? Yes, absolutely. Is it going to specifically answer every question you’ve got? Not by a long shot. And on top of that, answering our practical questions isn’t the point of the bible.
Maybe that makes the hair on the back of your neck stand up. Maybe you should shave your neck. Or, if you’re married, maybe you could ask yourself if the Bible told you to marry your spouse. When you were deciding what job to take or school to attend, did you find “Take that job” or “Go to that school” in the Bible? When I got a call from Highland Village First Baptist Church almost a decade ago asking if I was interested in throwing a resume together and interviewing to be their pastor, and I was thinking and praying about what to do, I didn’t find the answer in the Bible.
If I’m trying to figure out what I should do or where I should go, I can find general principles about wisdom and guidance and worship in the Scriptures, but I can’t find “Marry Lauren, take the position at the Village, buy a minivan” in the Scriptures.
Here’s my point: what if the Bible isn’t about us at all? What if we aren’t the story of God’s revelation?
The Bible definitely issues commands for us to obey and makes demands for our submission. But, in the end, reading the Bible as the Daily Manual for My Life is the deficient way of the two basic ways available to us. We can read it as a reference book about us. Or we can see that the Bible is a book about God. To paraphrase Herbert Lockyer, the Bible is for us, but not about us.
—Bury Your Flame
You came back and you brought floods
Wearing a necklace made of hearts that you’d dragged through the mud
And I guess I wasn’t quite sure what to say to you
But then I saw mine, almost reached out to grab it
Said, darling, you’re the only one on earth I want to have it
But now I’m not so sure that was true, after the hell you put it through
But there was no sharp pain this time
Just the ghost of your presence compressing my chest like a vine
An unshakable absence
Like most of my insides crawled out of my mouth and went west but that’s fine
We cast our hearts in plaster, we imagined our bodies were fashioned of stone
But they chipped at the brick and mortar
We found out that we’re only layers of skin hiding bones
And our bones are like chains, old and rusted in the rain
They’re going to snap when the weight shifts.